Thursday, June 30, 2011

Simply Student Ministry


The first six chapters of Simple Student Ministry by Eric Geiger and Jeff Borton explain the need, the why, and the how of creating a simple student ministry. The student ministries in most churches today are complex, confused, and unfocused. Youth group is a baby-sitting service to keep the kids off the streets and out of their parents’ hair for one night. It is a form of entertainment and a reason to have a party under the guise of “student ministry.” This kind of student ministry lacks focus and purpose so to combat such ministries, Geiger and Borton wrote a book to provide a way of “doing” student ministry that is simple, focused, and has a clear process.
Chapter one explains how student ministry became so complicated and unfocused. It is because of expectations of others, traditions of the church, and a deficient view of discipleship.  The authors work to biblically define discipleship and change the common viewpoint. Discipleship is not about programs and information but rather about transformation. Discipleship is a process that transforms people.
Chapter two introduces simple student ministry and explains why a simple, strategic process in discipleship is important. The four reasons the authors give is one, a simple process creates space for relationships; two, it engages students in ministry and mission; three, it fosters less dependence on programs and four; it operates with great intentionality. Using a simple process like this feeds the spiritual and emotional needs of teenagers on a longer-term and deeper basis. It has the ingredients to create the environment where disciples can be produced.
Chapter three introduces the first of four key elements to the simple process in student ministry. The first element is clarity. Create a blueprint, a process, of how discipleship will be done within the ministry. How discipleship is done, how this process is carried out, impacts what kind of students are produced. So it is important that clarity is gained and a clear process is determined. The authors give four aspects of clarity that are important in creating a blueprint. One is to define the process, then illustrate the process, then measure it (or in other words, evaluate it) and then communicate the process to those it may concern.
Chapter four introduces the second element in the simple process, movement. Movement is moving students through the process and having clear next steps. It is moving students from a low level of commitment (showing up on Wednesday night) to a high level of commitment (being apart of a ministry team). Programs are apart of this movement element but only as tools to move students through the discipleship process. They should be used strategically and sequentially so that they reflect the process. Overall, movement needs to be intentional. There has to be a clear point and focus.
Chapter five introduces the third element in the simple process. The third element is alignment, which happens because of unity and a common purpose. To create alignment there must be a shared vision of the process by leaders and volunteers. Those who share the vision and passion place them in the environments that are vital to the discipleship process and offer them accountability. Continually align and make sure that the program and events offered are aligned with the process and the leaders and volunteers are in unity.
The fourth element is focus and is introduced in chapter six. Deviation from the process can and will happen. Obstacles can present themselves that will steal focus off of the process and when focus is diverted, chaos and clutter can occur. The authors give ways in which to bring greater focus to the student ministry. One way to ensure focus is to eliminate the nonessentials by saying no. Another way to remain focused is to limit adding programs and to reduce special events. If a program or event is not going to help the process then do not implement it. Use the programs that are already in place to achieve the goals.
The rest of the book gave examples of large churches, parachurches, and small and midsize churches that use a simple student ministry approach. Though the sizes of these churches and parachurches were different, they all had a simple approach to student ministry. In fact, they all had the same approach, just the way they went about doing the process was a bit different for each church. The approach for every church was this, to get the students to first connect with God, then connect them to others, and then connect them to ministry and the world. Though each church articulated this process differently, this was the basic process of every church. However, how this process was carried out was different.
In the large and small churches, some student ministries met Sunday night while others met Saturday or Wednesday night to implement their first phase of the process, connect to God. This first phase always consisted of teaching and worship. This is where students can come at any time and connect with God through the teaching and worship.
The second phase, connect with others, is done through small groups. Whether the groups met right after the service or throughout the week, they all shared the same purpose and goal, that the students would do life together and have an adult mentor to guide them. These groups would hold each other accountable, pray for each other, and go deeper with the message from the large group service.
The third phase, connect with ministry and/or the world, is done through a variety of ways. The adult small group leader would encourage the students to get involved with any of the ministry teams in the church. This could be the worship band, the nursery, and a greeter; anywhere the student could use his or her gifts. Some churches also offered mission trips for the students to go on. These mission trips would range from one week to a month long in duration. The point of this phase is to get the students out in the world and actively serving.
The parachurches definitely do the process differently. The process is more or less the same but it looks quite different from the large and small churches. The parachurches mentioned in the book either meet together on a school campus or in someone’s home. First Priority has four phases implemented in four weeks. The first week is Training Week, which is used to teach the basics of the Christian faith. The second week is Encouragement Week, which is where a guest speaker or one of the students will share their testimony or an inspiring message. The third week is Accountability Week, which has three main focuses: prayer, plan, and perform. The prayer phase is used to give the students opportunity to pray for their unsaved friends. The plan phase is used to prepare for Mission Week. The perform phase is used to hold students accountable to serving their school. The students of the club will do something to share the love of Jesus with the other students, like hand out donuts in the morning or bottled water. The fourth week is Mission Week, which is where students invite other students to come to the club for free pizza but really to hear a Gospel message. These four weeks are repeated a couple of times throughout the school year.
Young Life has the same process as the large and small churches. They meet in someone’s home and experience three elements of the club: music, humor, and a message. This is the entry point phase where students can bring their friends and introduce them to the club and to Jesus. The next phase is small group Bible study. In this phase a small group of students get together with their Young Life leader and have Bible study and are developed to be leaders. The next phase is Work Crew. This is where the students leave home for a month and work to serve others under a leader who will pour into them. When they come back they are considered leaders and have the responsibility of serving the other students.
Though these churches and parachurches are of different size, their simple student ministry strategies were very similar. They all had the same basic process of connecting students with God, with others, and with the world. Any church or organization of any size and means can implement this process in such a way that students will be discipled.
This book was an eye-opener to how simple and purposeful student ministry can be. It is amazing how clear the process can be and how much it makes sense. It makes me wonder why so many churches and student ministries are not getting it. I believe that student ministries will be a lot more effective if this process of connecting students with God, to others, and to the world is implemented. If I were ever to be apart of a discipleship ministry I would definitely use this strategy. There is nothing I disagree with. I think it is easily manageable and that it can be made unique to any ministry. I would involve parents as much as possible, especially as small group leaders and mentors. Ideally, I want parents to take the responsibility of discipling their own children but having trusted adults help that discipleship process along is a definite blessing.
The reasons I think this strategy is great is because it provides relationships, mentorship, accountability, encouragement, Biblical study, and leadership development. These are all things a teenager needs to be discipled and to be prepared for life after high school. If more student ministries began using this simple process, more teenagers would be put within a discipleship environment and Lord willingly, more teenagers would develop a relationship with God and become leaders in their church and their community.

Sunday, June 19, 2011

Evangelism and Student Ministry

*This is a paper I wrote for my summer class over a book called Evangelism Remixed by Dave Rahn and Terry Linhart. It is about how to be an evangelistic student ministry. It's good stuff and information I want to share. I hope you enjoy!*

The responsibilities of an adult leader in an evangelistic youth ministry are numerous but the four I want to focus on are the adult as a mentor, a model of evangelism, a coach, and an influencer.

​The adult role as a mentor is a hard role to fill. To be a mentor to a teenager means a lot of time, emotional and spiritual investment, support, guidance, and a continuing out pour of love and godly wisdom. It is a personal commitment to show students the way to follow Christ and to live a godly life. The way this is done is by being an example and living what is taught. This means mentors have to be spiritually mature, continually in the Word for their own edification, and have a passion to see teenagers become mature Christians who love the Lord and are sharing the Gospel with their peers.

​Adults also need to be a model of evangelism to their students. If adults want to see teenagers evangelizing their peers at school and other social settings, then the adults need to be modeling that for them. Without a model, teenagers are less likely to evangelize because they do not know what that looks like or how it is done. Evangelism training can be helpful but without seeing it play out in real life teenagers may not be able to bridge that gap between theory and application on their own. Also, students can and may hold the mentality that if they do not see their adult leaders or parents evangelizing then why should they. It is vital that adults be a model and lead by example.

​Another responsibility of adults in a youth ministry is to be a coach or, in other words, a form of accountability. Not only should adults be a mentor and a model but they should also keep students accountable and be personally aware of what is going on in the teen’s life. Teens need adults who are actively involved in their life and are deeply invested in them. This should be primarily the parents’ place of involvement but not all parents are even in their kid’s life and even those who are need additional help and support from other adults.

​Adults also hold a great deal of influence over teenagers. The adults who have the greatest influence are parents but youth pastors, workers, small group leaders, and any adult who works with teenagers in some way influences their lives. Adults should pay close attention to each individual student and what is going on in their life so that they can challenge, encourage, and provoke students to a deeper relationship with God.

​As a youth leader, the way I would fulfill these areas is by gathering together a group of like minded adults and assigning each one of us a small group of three or less students to invest in through study of the Word, active involvement in the life of each student, prayer, and partnership with the parents or present guardian. I would meet with my students and get to know them on an appropriate level of intimacy and get involved in their lives. That means going to their sport games, seeing them play in the band, going to their award ceremonies, having lunch with them at school, and participating as much as I can in their life outside of the church.

​I would get them involved in mission opportunities where they can see me serving and evangelizing. I would teach them through example and then help them create their own method or style of evangelism that they can use with their peers.

​I would also do what I could to get to know the students’ parents. It is vital that the parents be the key influence and key source of discipleship in a teen’s life. I should only be there to assist, bridge the great generation gap, and help the parents do their part. In the beginning I would most likely spend most of my time getting to know the parents and assessing the parent-teen relationship so that I would better know my role.

​Chapter five focused on the importance of prayer in a youth ministry that wants to be evangelistic. Prayer should not be something that is done because it is expected but rather it should be intentional and at the center of what the youth ministry does. Teens and adults alike should be expecting to see people come to know Jesus because they have been praying for opportunities to lead people to Christ.
​The authors claim that prayer is the key practice that makes evangelistic students different from other students. Evangelistic students pray more and pray specifically for witnessing opportunities. The more students pray for these opportunities the more God will use them to reach their peers.

​The authors gave three prayer priorities that need to be evident in a youth ministry to help teens reach their friends with the Gospel. One is that adult leaders must put prayer at the top of their priority list. This goes back to being a model. Adults need to model prayer for their students. The second priority is that students must pray with ever-increasing frequency. Prayer should become a natural occurrence, not just a once-a-month thing in a student’s life. The third priority is that students must have opportunities more than once a month to pray with others. It is important to pray in a group for it brings the group’s focus back on God.

​In the youth groups I have observed, prayer should have been more of a priority. It should have had a greater group emphasis where the teens got together and prayed for one another and for their friends. Taking more time to pray and less time to play games would have strengthened the youth group as a whole and the student as an individual.  Breaking up into small groups and just spending time in prayer would have been a great way to minister to one another and beseech God on behalf of unbelieving friends.

​Chapter six was about inviting others to the youth ministry and creating an inviting environment. The authors discussed how important community is to the invitation aspect of youth ministry. If teens do not feel welcomed and comfortable to some degree, invitations will be turned down and they may never be seen again.

​The authors gave four group dynamics that they viewed as important factors to the success of evangelistic youth ministries when it came to inviting teens. First, the youth ministry needs to be socially safe. Teens should feel as if they can attend the youth ministry and know that they do not have to sacrifice their social comfort. Second, youth ministry needs to be emotionally safe. There needs to be such an environment where teens feel free to express their genuine emotions. Though teenage emotions can change within a second, the emotional part of adolescence should not be ignored. Third, youth ministry needs to exhibit a high level of consistency. The youth ministry needs to be dependable and consistent. Teens will not invite their friends if they do not know what is going on week to week. It can create social awkwardness and embarrassment that will not keep a teen for very long. Fourth, youth ministry should center on Christ. Youth ministry should not center on playing games, having fun, eating pizza, or being a social hangout. It should be centered on Christ. Christ should be the core of what the youth ministry is and does. Whether the leaders want to realize it or not, it is being centered on Christ that will bring people in on a deeper level.

​When I was in youth group, me and the other teens were always told to invite our friends. Over and over we were told, “invite your friends to youth group, invite your friends to this activity, come to this party but bring a friend!” I never had a friend to bring as all my friends already went to church and were involved in their own youth group. If I had had a friend to invite I do not know that I would have because I was not pleased with how our youth ministry was done. I had a lot of fun with the other teens and we were a pretty tight knit group but there was not a lot of spiritual growth happening. Our time together centered on talking about everything but the Word of God and playing games. The last ten minutes were used to squeeze in a hurried “Bible study” that neither challenged nor edified me.

​In the youth groups that I have been apart of and observed, I do not believe that it was hard for the teens to invite their friends. There was nothing that could be done to make it easier. What needed to be done was to give the teens a reason to invite their friends. There was no need to invite friends because the group was close and had fun together without the help of other people. Inviting friends was not about evangelism but about numbers and because of that the teens had nothing driving them.

​Chapter seven discusses the need for the youth ministry to prepare their student leaders to explain the Gospel well. This is done through adults being the model, frequent evangelism training, encouragement from the adult leaders, keeping the Bible a central part of life, and going away on retreats, camps, conferences, or serving on a short-term mission trip. These things will help mold student leaders into evangelists.

​Personally, my strategy for sharing the Gospel is to let it happen naturally in conversation. It seems more genuine then and less like a sales pitch. The more the Gospel is shared the more confident I become because not only do I learn how to be more effective in my sharing but the excitement over those conversations grow. Most people will talk about their beliefs and ask honest questions while seeking honest answers. If people can see that this is natural then it is a testament to my faith and to the way I live my life. They will see that my life revolves around the Lord and His truth and that sharing the Gospel is not forced, nor is it a rule to follow.

​My experiences as a camp counselor and the many mission trips that I have been on have given me opportunities to share the Gospel and create friendships (temporary though they may be) so that I can pour into the kids and impact them with a new way of living and thinking. My evangelistic experiences have been more than just sharing the key parts of the Gospel but rather the Gospel in its entirety with my life as a living testament.

Tuesday, June 7, 2011

A Letter from the Past

I came across this email I sent to Kyle during our courtship. It makes me smile. :) I still feel the same way about my man!

Every time I think about how my life was before I met you, I am reminded of how great of a difference you have made. Before you came along, my life was messy and chaotic, as you know. But now, my life makes so much more sense and it is a heck of a lot easier. I met you on the day that my life seemed to be falling apart and I was experiencing a pain that I had sworn I would never feel again. I never thought that meeting you would somehow make everything better. You really were just what I needed at the time and I totally believe that God knew what He was doing when He had us cross paths when we did. Your listening ear, words of wisdom and kindness, and your genuine concern was unlike anything I had ever truly experienced from a man before. I felt comfortable opening up myself to you little by little. It was a struggle at times but I also felt an odd peace. After all I had gone through, something told me that I could trust you....or else prove to be a fool once again...but it was worth that risk. I love how you express your masculinity in such a gentle way. You are a true gentleman and I find that attractive. :)

Monday, June 6, 2011

A Funny Hubby Happening

I'm going to be in class all week with lots of reading and writing to do within the next few weeks so I gave Kyle his first ever "honey do list." I explained to him the things I need his help with around the house as I will be very busy with class. He looked at me as if I was speaking a different language and then proceeded to tell me that I could start on the laundry tonight. Thanks for your help, honey! ;)
He did clean the bathroom for me today though which I appreciate. :) And he bought me a present; a new pair of TOMS. I think I'll keep him for a little while longer. ;)  
Red Crochet TOMS Shoes
(Check them out and buy yourself a pair!)